Cx2 on.. Kids

If you know me, you know how I feel about children.
 This blog was never meant to go into our personal lives - just topics all could relate to and discuss but to set this one up, I must explain some personal changes I'm undergoing.

Recently reconnected with a guy I went to HS with; he's since been married, divorced and has custody of 2 lovely children: current ages 3 & 5, boy & girl respectively.

I have never been interested in children, thus never really been in tune with the idea of 'parenting'.

So as I become more involved in this relationship - I am working to figure out how parenting (esp the eventual idea of 'step-parenting') works.


I have started doing a lot of research on 'where should a child be at this point in their development?' Things like: potty training, ABCs, ability to read/write, etc...

Most parents will say, you'll know how and when to do/teach your kids things and what to expect. However, coming in at ages: 3/5.. I want to make sure I'm not expecting more than the kids should be doing.

Since it's so early in the relationship, it's too early to discuss with their father his stance on their development -- but I want to make sure I'm helping when I'm around without overstepping my bounds in my role.

Cx2 on.. Self - perception

"If he had let himself believe he was being cruel to Celia he couldn't have done it.... He was, like many brutally honest men, dishonest about himself. He thought himself a finer fellow than he really was..."

- "Unfinished Portrait" by Mary Westmacott (Agatha Christie)

So I stole this from a friend's note on Facebook; but it really struck me.

It's hard to gauge how we are perceived by people because we have this idea of ourselves and either we hold ourselves to be better than we are, or we beat ourselves down and think we are worse than we are.

This is why honesty in relationships is SO important, because sometimes it takes a kick in the head for us to realize we're completely oblivious of how we're treating the people in our lives.

Think about it.